A ‘Grey’ area

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An issue of trust was something that came up last week on a cold Saturday night in the city.

    The bar was half empty or half full depending on your outlook on life. It was cosy but the atmosphere was unsure as heads turned and eyebrows rose in judgement.

    Sipping on a glass of wine I attempted to join in the conversation that seemed almost non-existent, but every sip seemed like a good comma in my conversation when I could find nothing else to say.

    The door was wide open and second hand smoke drifted ghostly through into the bar. I tried to curl up for comfort but the foot stool I was sitting on didn’t provide much reassurance - just like the bar itself. 

    As conversations batted backwards and forwards across the table a voice questioned me “Do you trust me?” Not knowing how to react or what to say my eyes fixed to the wall and my speech shut-down like a rabbit in the headlights.

    The question popped into my head: “Can you really ever trust anybody but yourself?”

    I had to say my opinion had always been “no” but like respect I always think that trust is something you have to earn! And after life throwing trauma, many let-downs and a couple of heartbreaks at me I’d learnt to develop a tougher skin. But had mine become so tough that nothing could get in any more?

     I had recently chained up and securely padlocked my heart once again and this time the combination was going to be a little more difficult to unlock it. Can you ever rely on anybody but yourself? I decided to put my question to the judging panel and see what the girls had to say about it.

    “When I first meet somebody I’m always open minded, I trust somebody unless they give me a reason not to, if this is the case I’m just polite and have my eyes open to the issue”  Livy

    “I think that you can trust people in different aspects, and think you should be able to trust anyone within reason” Lindsey

    “I find that ninety nine percent of the people I meet - after two months I will tend to have a totally different opinion on the person as to what I had before, I wouldn’t trust anyone until they prove me wrong” Samantha

    “I am an overly trusting person and after continuous let downs I continue to trust people I shouldn’t do, am I the most incredible optimist or just plain stupid?” Emma.

    We all seemed to have very different views on the matter. Eventually we came to a conclusion that trust is a mixture of learning, time and also what has happened to you in the past as a person.

    After many years of applying your own makeup in the same way that you were taught as a young girl it may seem hard to learn evolved techniques and to trust somebody to re-design your application methods, but after building rapport and finding that real connection with an artist, trusting new skills should be easy, as long as you look natural and still like you - you cant go wrong!

 

“Dear Charles, I’ve read that many people have wrote in with their beauty questions so I thought I’d put mine to the test, I’ve come to the age where I’m not sure what colours are right any more, my hair is now pure white and my skin is a little sallow looking, I just want to look glowing again, any suggestions?”

    Charles says: Colour is really the only way to go here. When your hair is grey or white and your complexion seems a little pale or ‘sallow’ it may feel like everything is very bland lost it’s plumpness and your skin looks washed out. Using brighter colours will help to contrast against your white hair leaving you with a very natural, pretty and a more lifted look.

    Make sure you use a tinted moisturiser or foundation that promises to give you a more dewy finish to the skin. These formulas will tend to plump up the skin and the dewy look is always more youthful than a powdered matte finish that looks very makeup’y. You can always add a little powder to set your foundation and to matt-ify any shine you may have where the skin appears more oily.

    For your skin tone choose a pale pink or an apricot blush that will bring a flush of colour on to your blank canvas. Make sure this is on the apple of the cheek and bring colour in to the nose, out and down on the face, you should not be able to see where your blush colour finishes as it should blend naturally into the skin.

    Choose a bright to warm pink and even a mauve to pink tone to tie in with your blush tone and again to give the face a brighter more lifted appearance. Lip liner is good for definition on the lips and this will help to stop colour from bleeding.

    I love nothing more than heather, mauve and cool shades of dusty grey on the eyes to really tone in beautifully with white hair. I see so many women with this makeup combination and I just think it’s really polished and really pretty for any season. It’s a very classic look that will take you from the garden to a fancy meal out.

    Choose a very natural mauve or grey. Wash the mauve eye shadow all over the lid into the socket of the eye, and use a lighter ivory shade on the brow bone to highlight and lift open the eye, I think a dark brown liner and mascara is softer for this look, it helps to give definition and really is the perfect finishing touch for any makeup application.

    Remember trust yourself to try new things, I never used to, but that extra push has got me to where I am today-with the help of great friends that I trust!”